The Little Bit Naughty book of Sex Positions

Imagine that you are in the middle of sex; you look down to make eye contact with your partner only to realize that they have this dazed, bored look in their eyes. As she lies on her back starring at the ceiling, you’re trusting away in the basic missionary position not noticing that she is uninterested.  That’s when it sinks in: your sexual relationship has hit a rut. There is nothing worse than being in the middle of the act and realizing that your partner is bored to death.

Siobhan Kelly’s The Little Bit Naughty book of Sex Positions can help.  This book includes 50 rocking sex positions.  The positions are detailed out as how to do them, what does and doesn’t work well with the position, variations of the position, and includes pictures for the visual learner.

I picked this book up at the 2007 LA Erotica show in June and it quickly became a way to spice up sex with new and fun positions.  There is more to sex than missionary, doggy style, and having the girl on top.  This book will teach you how and what to do to increase pleasure and have a blast during intercourse.

Now I can’t discuss all the positions with you that would take all the fun out of trying them for yourself.  However, I can tell you about my favorites listed in The Little Bit Naughty book of Sex Positions.  This will hopefully provide some insight on the crazy, limb-bending positions that you can try with your partner to spice up your sex life.

One of my personal favorites in this book is called “Reverse Rodeo”.  In this position, the man lies on his back while the female sits backwards on top of him facing away from him.   She gently lowers herself onto his penis and leans back all the way until she is resting on his body, lying on his chest.  This position enables the male to manually stimulate her clitoris with his hand while she rocks back and forth for penetration.  This is a great position because it is mostly female-dominated.  The male has little-to-no movement but can touch her body, stroke her breasts, and stimulate her clitoris.  These additional sensations increase the female arousal by adding more pleasure.

Another position that rocked my world was “The Mexican Wave.”  Don’t ask why it’s called that, I couldn’t figure that out either.  This position is more difficult than normal but it’s worth the try.  During this position the woman lies on her back with legs wide open while the male positions himself on top facing the opposite direction on all fours.  It’s similar to 69 with the man on top but his penis goes in the vagina not in her mouth.  The male puts his legs outside the female’s body and over her hips while he gently inserts himself into the vagina.  The woman wraps her legs around his body for stability.  This position enables the focus to remain on the lower-portions of the body.  Because this is a different type of stimulation, it feels more intense.  Another added bonus is that in this position the woman can play with the male’s testicles or anus during intercourse.

These are just two of the positions I enjoyed from this book.  Next time you are in need of some sprucing up in the sack, pick up a copy of The Little Bit Naughty book of Sex Positions.  I’m sure one of the 50 positions recommended will take your sexual experience to a new level.  If not, at least she shouldn’t have that bored look in her eyes.

Painting Her Own World in a Shade of Blue

Too much is hard to ignore about Bluegirl. She’s taller than the average woman, a little shy of six feet—heels off; she’s in love with hot red acrylic nails your eyes can’t help but chase; and she’s obsessed with all that encompasses fashion. But one thing’s truly visible: her decision to create her own art world and live in it.

Although for the past year artist, photographer and curator, Heidi Calvert aka Bluegirl has been on a hiatus, simply “working on herself,” she somehow managed to curate an exhibit, photograph herself in the nude and display a piece in an erotic art show this past summer.

“I think sometimes we have to focus on ourselves and our wellness,” said Calvert, “in order to succeed.”

Fifteen years ago, Calvert started shooting rock photos and album covers after her lost interest in painting. She soon established herself as an innovative photographer and got noticed for the sensuality in her work. “I think its just part of who I am. I’m a sensual person so it naturally comes out through my art,” said Calvert.

This summer Bluegirl took a break from her break and got to work, curating an erotic show in the “Bee-Rotica” themed exhibit along with Nathan Cartwright, owner of the Hive Gallery in Downtown L.A. The show included painting, photography and multimedia with over 100 artists focusing on erotica. For Bluegirl, it was easy; compile artists, most of who were colleagues and friends, give them the theme and let them roam free. “I didn’t have a theme within erotica,” explained Calvert. “It was just erotic art. I said, “Do what you want but just do it with feeling.” ”

In addition to co-curating the show, Bluegirl also presented a piece. “It was very personal to me,” she said about the nude self-portrait on the wall.  But that wasn’t quite the original plan. “My model didn’t show up, so I was like, I’m a woman, I’m sexual….so I threw on some make up and set up my camera on a tripod,” she laughed.

Like any normal human being, Calvert was shy and insecure about displaying her nude portrait, but she was also excited to be the focus of such an erotic piece.

“There’s a different approach to erotica [compared to porn]. People feel comfortable but yet curious,” claims Calvert. “It’s almost shameless…and it feels like human nature.” But although Bluegirl is drawn to erotic art, she refrains from being classified as an erotic photographer. Her work is filled with variety and passion— her mission: creating her own world as she expresses herself in it.

Caution, Balls

Take caution indeed.  An NC-17 rating is one of those guilty pleasures that don’t always deliver once it’s consumed.  These days, the hankering to watch people go at it in full detail can easily be served with a laptop and internet connection, however the rare movie rating can still draw some level of attention, especially when an Academy Award-winning director of a movie about cowboys finding love, is involved.

With a no children under 17 warning, a stamp that usually condemns a film for its explicit content, usually involving nipples and vigorous gyrations, Lust Caution was probably branded the rating not so much because the anticipated sex scenes were exceptionally acrobatic or choreographed to a symphony, but because director Ang Lee, (Brokeback Mountain, Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, Sense and Sensibility), made it look so real.  In Lust, he beautifully depicts what hot sex between a sad, miserable, misunderstood guy and an impressionable college dropout really feels like, a bit uncomfortable, a bit erotic, and well, kind of hot, minus one or two armpit shots.  Rating aside, the sex really did fit in to the story.

Lust, Caution satisfies, but not just for the strategic camera placement, pretty photography and realistically shot sex.  Even if you go into the film anticipating the romps, the story of a group of students in a theater club conspiring to assassinate a Chinese intelligence officer, Mr. Yee (Tony Leung), does draw you in.

The story takes place in Japanese occupied Shanghai during WWII.  Mr. Yee is working for the Japanese-backed government.  Wong Chia Chi, (Tang Wei), is a timid college student coming of age and looking for a place to fit in during war’s uncertainty.  Wong finds acceptance in her club of young thespians, led by Kuang Yu Min (Lee-Hom Wang), when she becomes the star of a patriotic stage production.  Her newfound talent is exploited when she is asked by Kuang to play a role in infiltrating the home of Mr. Yee, a man Kuang calls a traitor to China, in order to assassinate him.  Wong, with blurry eyes agrees with little hesitation.

It is a bit unconvincing that this innocent wide-eyed freshman is supposed to turn into a spy within a matter of months, and is expected to help kill a man.  She comes off as naïve throughout the film.  When she does fall into the role of seductress, it’s uncertain whether she’s just playing the part or is truly looking for that relationship in Mr. Yee that she really wants with Kuang, who is committed to the primary motive at whatever the cost.

Tony Leung’s performance as the emotionally vulnerable informant easily begs your sympathy with his reserved melancholic eyes.  Though he is branded the evil traitor, he comes off as a sad, overwhelmed and perhaps misunderstood man.  His secretive work doesn’t allow for a normal life.  The attention of a young woman, whose own husband is conveniently off on business most of the time, is cautiously welcomed.  Each casual moment between Wong and Mr. Yee hints toward the inevitable intimate encounter.  It takes some time before the two pull out the whip and get hard and wet, about a third through the movie actually.  When it happens though, you kind of think, “What was that?”  Then you immediately ask for some more.  And you get more.  The buildup that Ang Lee creates between the two characters justifies the violent passion.  But this is not the climax, the story and sex continues and we’re engaged by each individual’s struggle to make sense of what the next step is supposed to be.  The affair grows into an unexpected climax where both have their revelations, one just in time, the other, a tick too late.

At 157 minutes, the film is a bit lengthy of its adaptation of Eileen Chang’s original short story.  But, the details do matter with each and every frame.  It is his style and it works here as it did with Brokeback Mountain.  The Mandarin speaking film with English subtitles may also be a deterrent for most viewers, but then again, Lee has admitted this was not a film for mainstream; which may explain why he’d refused to cut down any of the sex scenes for the more tame R rating.

Lust, Caution has been nominated for a Golden Globe Award for Best Foreign Language Film, which could mean that its limited release may continue through the New Year.  If not, watch for the dvd.  That way you can play with the slow-mo and freeze-frame to debate if the fuzz bumping is actually real.